You don’t have to be perfect.

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That is such a great reminder. Too often I let it get in my way. I don't write a blog post because it might not be perfect. I don't get closer to my acquaintances because I can't be the perfect friend. I don't start that Signing class because I'm afraid someone might be disappointed. I'm sure I'm not the only one to let fear and the thought of disappointing others stop them or hinder them from doing the things they want to do or try.

I have never wanted people to see me struggle. My mom says she never saw me try to walk, just one day (at 16m old) I stood up and walked across the room. I'm sure even at that young age, I didn't want anyone to see me being weak or flawed. I know I didn't ride a 2 wheel bike without training wheels until I was 8 because I didn't want anyone to see me fall. Fear has kept me from trying fun things off the diving board, playing a musical instrument, (I did take a piano class in high school, but it was on keyboards and there were headphones so no one could hear you unless the teacher clicked in and every time, I froze!) and I'm sure a plethora of other daring activities! Oddly enough I was a performer at a young age, I started dancing at age 3 and danced through high school, tap, jazz, hip hop etc. We had recitals every year and I was on the competitive dance team. The biggest difference was, I was good at dancing, I had no fear of struggling. But trying something new, that often terrifies me! It's weird, if it's something a lot of people find difficult, I'm fine trying it, but if many people find it easy and I think I might struggle, I am intimidated by it!

I could blame the internet with my fear of writing blog posts, everyone can see that there are people out there are just waiting to tear down others. But, while that might be part of that fear, the original fear has been there long before the internet! I know I am my own worst critic, but dang, I am very convincing! I tell my kids all the time that the only way to get better at something is to keep doing it. If it doesn't go well, you have learned something about what not to do! I need to listen to my own advice and not my own criticisms.

So, here is my imperfect blog post about not being perfect! I will not let fear keep me from sharing my tips, tricks, vents etc. about being a parent, wife, sister, friend. etc.

I'm sure there are many others that are letting fear hold them back. Let go of the fear. Even if it's a small step, do it! Try learning that new skill, or get going on your favorite hobby that you've ignored for too long. Start a blog! Do what you need to do that fulfills you and who you were meant to be!

I just finished “watching” (by that I mean it was on while I did work) the movie “Moms Night Out”. I did not expect to get anything out of it, besides a few laughs when I could pay attention. I got a great reminder! (Thanks to Trace Adkins's character, “Bones”. Jesus loves you no matter what, no matter where you go, or how far you travel, Jesus is there waiting for you. He did not make a mistake by making you the mom of your children. He cares for the eagles and just wants them to be eagles. He wants us to be us, to do what he created us to do!

I really think one of the things I'm supposed to do is help parents not feel so alone. To not be so hard on themselves, to help them be more confident parents. To help them love themselves so that they can love their children more and do whatever it is that God has created them to do! I'm not always sure how to go about doing that, but I have got to try and not let fear get in my way!

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